This lecture will discuss the common challenges modern families face and discuss some general strategies to develop to help insulate families from instability and unnecessary conflict. Some of the topics briefly covered will be; the erosion of intimacy, addictive patterns, family instability and blending, media and pornography, and sexuality.
Dean M. Busby, Ph.D. is the director of the School of Family Life at Brigham Young University. He received his Ph.D. in Family Therapy from Brigham Young University. Following his schooling he taught at Syracuse University and Texas Tech University, where he was the department chair, before returning to Brigham Young University. He is a published author of books, book chapters, and research articles in the area of marriage relationships, sexuality, relationship education and intervention, assessment of couples, and relationship trauma. His research has garnered university and national awards and been funded by federal and state grants. Dr. Busby has taught at the university level for more than twenty years, primarily in the area of dating and marriage relationships, family violence, and research methods. His courses are popular and well-received. Dr. Busby has been married for 30 years and he and his wife Colleen are the parents of three sons.
Involvement with and powerlessness over problem behaviors varies from feel-good indulgence to habit, compulsion, dependency, and addiction. We consider the nature of addiction and the slippery slope leading to it. Recovery is spiritual exodus involving desire for recovery, individual will and work for recovery, relationships in recovery, and grace for recovery. Particular attention is given to overcoming pornography use in couple and family context.
LDS Bio (Citizenship Venues—Families Under Fire, Family Expo, Women’s Conference, Education Week, . . .)
Mark H. Butler is a Marriage and Family Therapist and Professor in the School of Family Life at Brigham Young University since 1996. At BYU, he earned his B.S. Magna Cum Laude in Political Science and M.S. in Marriage and Family Therapy. Following graduation, he was endorsed by the LDS Church for service as an LDS military chaplain. Providing couple therapy at The Gathering Place for the next two years, he developed expertise helping couples collaborate for recovery from substance addiction. He has specialized in addiction recovery in marriage and family context ever since. He returned on fellowship to earn his Ph.D. in Marriage and Family Therapy at Texas Tech University, after which he joined the MFT faculty and BYU School of Family Life in January of 1996. In 2013 he joined the Family Science faculty within the School, focusing on serving and mentoring undergraduate students.
Mark has focused his scholarship on covenant-anchored, attachment-focused healing from marital betrayal trauma and addiction. In 2010 he published Spiritual Exodus—A Latter-day Saint Guide to Recovery from Behavioral Addiction. He has presented to regional, national, and international audiences on principles and interventions for promoting recovery and healing from addictive behavior, emphasizing individual, relationship, and spiritual principles and practices.
Mark and his wife, Shelly D. Butler, have been married 32 years and are the parents of five children.
Blending families is difficult! And it is often misunderstood! There are many commonly held, but counter-productive, myths which set up unrealistic “Brady Bunch” expectations for uniting two families. In this class we expose the myths and then turn our attention to what research shows are the realities of blended families. We frankly share our own experience doing our best to blend a family with 12 children with all of its challenges and joys. We share research-based and gospel-oriented principles and tips for how to make the best of a blended family situation.
Tammy Hill, LMFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist with a practice in Provo, UT and serves on the Utah State Marriage and Family Therapy Licensing Board. She is an adjunct professor of Family Life at Brigham Young University and teaches classes in marriage preparation and healthy sexuality in marriage. She was also a high school Family and Consumer Sciences teacher for 17 years.
E. Jeffrey Hill, PhD, is a professor of Family Life at Brigham Young University and teaches classes on family finance and family processes. He has written numerous scholarly articles, book chapters, and books, and has contributed five articles to the Ensign. Most recently he published “Fundamentals of Family Finance: Living Joyfully within your Means” which is an LDS-oriented book about finances.
Tammy and Jeff are both widowed. They celebrated their tenth anniversary this year and have experienced the challenge and joy blending a family of 12 children. They now also have 25 grandchildren. Tammy’s first spouse, Mark, passed away in 2002. Jeff’s first spouse, Juanita, passed away in 2005.
This lecture will cover general effects of media and children and families. We will examine general media trends, parental concerns about media, and strategies and tools for parents to manage media in the home.
Dr. Sarah M. Coyne is an associate professor of human development in the School of Family Life at BYU. Her research interests involve media, aggression, gender, and child development. She, and her husband Paul, have 5 children and currently live in Salem.
This lecture will sort through the modern myths and realities of pornography and it’s threat to family relationships. Much of the current information available to families about pornography is misleading and potentially harmful. This lecture will overview exactly how prevalence pornography use and pornography addiction is and how it impacts family relationships. Strategies for dealing with pornography from a parenting, couple, and general family perspective will be addressed.
Brian J. Willoughby, Ph.D. is currently an associate professor in the School of Family Life at Brigham Young University. Dr. Willoughby is considered an international expert in the field of couple and marital relationships, sexuality, and emerging adult development. Dr. Willoughby has published over 50 peer-reviewed articles and book chapters on young adult development, couple dynamics, marriage, and sexuality in the leading family science, psychological and sociological journals. Dr. Willoughby also currently serves on the editorial boards for Emerging Adulthood, the Archives of Sexual Behavior, the Journal of Sex Research and the Journal of Adult Development and has been elected as a full member of the International Academy of Sex Research. His research has been widely cited in the media, appearing in such outlets as USA Today, MSNBC, Men’s Health, the Washington Post, ABC News, Psychology Today, and Prevention Magazine. He has appeared in live broadcasts on such news outlets as HuffPost Live and NPR. He also has a recurring guest role on the Matt Townson Show, a national radio show dedicated to dating and family relationships. Dr. Willoughby currently teaches several classes at Brigham Young University in the areas of family dynamics and couple process. Dr. Willoughby has been married for fifteen years to his wife Cassi and together they have four children.
Although conflict is a normal—even healthy—part of marriage there are certain patterns of conflict that are toxic. In this session, I will describe the patterns that are most strongly associated with relationship distress and divorce and present strategies for how to keep these patterns from taking root in your relationship. I will also teach skills that have been scientifically shown to improve communication ability and relationship satisfaction. Using these skills will make it feel safer to open up to one another, leading to greater intimacy and connection.
A native of Salem, UT, Scott is the youngest of six and the only boy (perhaps the reason he studied psychology?). After serving and LDS mission in London, England, he met his wife Kimberly at Brigham Young University. He began graduate school in New York, but followed his mentor to Florida State University where he obtained his Ph.D in Clinical Psychology. In the summer of 2010, Scott completed his predoctoral residency at the Medical University of South Carolina and became a professor at Brigham Young University in Provo, UT. Scott and Kim have five children (he insists that’s at least two too many). Scott enjoys cycling, cooking and becoming an amateur rock star. “As soon as I can find a few other rocking psychologists, my plan is to form the geekiest rock band of all time—if I have it my way, we’ll be called The Shrinks.”
Helping Families Response Compassionately and Faithfully to Those Who Experience Same-Sex Attraction
Ty is a practicing marriage and family therapist and an adjunct instructor at Brigham Young University and Utah Valley University. He is also a co-founder, past president, and current board member of the nonprofit North Star, a faith-based support organization for Latter-day Saints addressing sexual orientation or gender identity. With a focus on personal narrative and faith-based approaches addressing sexuality and gender, he chronicled his own journey with same-sex attraction as co-author of In Quiet Desperation and later compiled Voices of Hope, an anthology of personal essays. He co-directs the Voices of Hope Project, a website extension of the book, and the Journeys of Faith Project, which features the stories of transgender Latter-day Saints. He is also part of the Reconciliation and Growth Project, a dialogue group between LGBTQ affirmative and religious conservative mental health professionals who have developed an ethical mental health treatment protocol for working with individuals experiencing conflicts between their faith and their sexuality and/or gender identity.
This lecture will discuss our modern world, and how common it is for people who are experiencing struggles in their marriage—minor or major—to have thoughts about divorce. In this presentation, we will explore how common it is, what it means (and doesn’t mean), and how to deal with such thoughts. We will review words of wisdom from LDS Church leaders as well valuable research perspectives. In addition, we will explore do’s and don’ts of how to help friends and loved ones who tell us they have been thinking about divorce.
Alan J. Hawkins is the Camilla E. Kimball Endowed Professor of Family Life at Brigham University. He earned a Ph.D. in Human Development and Family Studies at The Pennsylvania State University in 1990. Professor Hawkins’ has taught and conducted research and outreach at Brigham Young University since 1990. In 2012, he received the university's prestigious Karl G. Maeser Research Award. His scholarship and outreach focuses on educational and policy interventions to help couples form and sustain healthy relationships and enduring marriages. In 2003-2004, he was a visiting scholar with the Administration for Children and Families (U.S. Department of Health & Human Services), working on the federal healthy marriages initiative. He is the current Chair of the Utah Marriage Commission.